This Mother’s Day, I’m going to indulge and give myself a Mother’s Day present. First, I’d like to thank both of my children for changing my life when they were born 19 and 16 years ago, by honoring me with the opportunity to be their mom. And now, I’m going to share a few of my experiences with you about my relationship with my two children and their dreams.
Before my daughter initiated me into motherhood, while I was round with pregnancy, I had a vivid dream. A little toddler with curly golden hair was running in a forest with a pack of wolves. Not running from them, but running with them, in complete comfort and harmony. The wolves were her family. In my dream, this child was vivaciously leading the group of wolves through the forest. I awoke from this dream with the feeling that my child had given me her middle name. When she was born, I honored the dream by giving my daughter Akasha the middle name Goldenwolf.
When Akasha was 13, and my son Luke was 10, my friend and colleague Ed Kellogg suggested I give my children a “Harry Potter Lucid Dream Challenge.” This kind of game wasn’t out of the ordinary for them because like me, my children have been raised in a household with lucid dream education from the time they could talk about their dreams. The idea of Ed’s game was: become lucid in a dream, and try to cast one of the spells from the Harry Potter series to see what happens. Both of my children said they would try it. The next morning, Luke told me that in his dream he had gotten as far as holding a wand, but before he could cast a spell, he was distracted by other events in his dream. Akasha then walked down the stairs, approached me timidly and said, “Mom?” with wide, lit up eyes. “I did it!” she reported proudly. In her dream, she’d entered a dark area and proceeded to illuminate her wand by saying, “Lumos!”
The video below is from my 2013 YouTube series, DREAMBRIDGE: Reasons to Build It. Luke was kind enough to be my first interview, and this is what he had to say.
ANGEL: What is Dreambridge, exactly?
LUKE: It’s a school… kind of like X-Men, but instead of super powers it’s like, dreams. Dream power. Dream power school. Just like in general, just like, a school and there’s like, a theater, and a library, and…
A: Art gallery…
L: Yeah, there’s an art gallery, it’s just you know—it’s a place almost like a summer camp but a little cooler where you can just go and learn and stuff.
A: Why do you think we need Dreambridge in the world?
L: A lot of people just take dreams for granted… and, you know, they have a dream that seems kind of important but they feel maybe if they talk about it people will think they’re weird or something—so you know, it’s just a place to let loose and not worry about what other people will think and just try to figure out what your dream meant—if —if it means something, which it probably will.
A: Have you done that?
A: What kind of changes would you imagine—having a school like that, or a center—a community center, or an institute like Dreambridge in the world… how could you see that benefiting the world?
L: People would be more relaxed. It would be valuable because dreams tend to be really, really cool and a lot of people that take a dream and turn it into art—
L: You know, it just really looks bizarre and cool and I feel like a lot of people would enjoy—enjoy looking at that.
A: You think maybe relate to it, perhaps?
L: Yeah. Maybe they’d see it and be like, “Whoah. I almost had a dream like that.”
A: Or maybe give them an idea to make their own dream-art about some dream that they had, right?
L: Yeah. Yeah, I mean maybe there’d be a lot less bullying… and uh, maybe just a lot of people would be a lot more… kinder. Um—probably just be a better world.
A: If we were doing a commercial for Dreambridge and you just had to sell Dreambridge to the world, what would it be?
L: (dramatic pause) If you come to Dreambridge—all your dreams will come true!
[Where should the first Dreambridge be built?]
L: It’s honestly—just anywhere where there’s a wide-open space—
A: You think Dreambridge would be good anywhere?
L: Anywhere! Yeah—
A: What about all the families? Do you think it would serve them well?
L: Yeah it would! You know, I feel—I feel like it would have a great impact on… on everyone.
A: How would a Dream-Arts Center serve them differently from any of those other Arts programs?
L: Well, I feel like the Dreambridge works with children, and adults, and everyone in a way that it doesn’t work in any other Arts program because it’s Dreaming—and a lot of people, like, they sort of bring dreaming into the conversation… but they never really focus a program on Dreams. And, you know, honestly that’s something that needs to happen in our community. Yeah, you know, a lot of kids have nightmares, and uh, parents will just be like, “You had a bad dream, suck it up—go back to bed.” Or just not even know what to tell them. Just be like, “It’s okay…” But they just really don’t know how to help them. I feel like if parents had this program, it would really just help them explain to their child what’s going on in the dream. And really just help them understand that a nightmare isn’t always a bad thing.
A: Do you remember what it was like when you used to have nightmares and you would come to me and I would talk you through it and help you?
L: Yeah, I do.
A: How did that make you feel?
L: Yeah, um, at first it was a little confusing and I almost didn’t get it. But you know, after the first couple of nightmares, they almost didn’t even seem like nightmares! And I could almost even not have to come to your room. I could just sort of try to figure it out myself and go back to bed.
Happy Mother’s Day from Dreambridge!