Posted by Bobbie Ann on April 21, 2014
In my previous blogs, I provided tips and techniques on Keeping a Dream Journal and Working with Dream Symbols, Characters, Settings, Actions and Day Residue that appear in your dreams and How to Create an Action Plan once you interpret a dream.
Then I shared two of my own dreams and interpretations so you can see how to put it all together. In the last two blogs, I showed you some of the risks and benefits of asking others to interpret your dream for you.
This week, I’d like to show you how you can be of help to other eDreamers by giving them a reflection on their dream -- and benefit yourself in the process.
To start with, I would suggest that you read a lot of the reflections that have been written by the Dreams Cloud Reflectors. You will see some differences in these reflections, depending on the dream and the one who is doing the reflection. Sometimes they go into great detail about many of the symbols in the dream. Sometimes they may only make note of one or two symbols. At other times they may offer suggested questions the dreamer should ask themselves; or they may just give an overall feeling or sense of what the dream might be conveying.
There are no set rules as to how many symbols should be commented on, how many words should be used or whether questions should or shouldn’t be offered. The only requirement is that all reflections done by Dreams Cloud Reflectors start with the phrase, “If this were my dream …”
This is because everyone (including me and you) projects their own beliefs and fears based on their life experiences all the time, including when they are interpreting your dream. By starting the reflection with “If this were my dream” the Reflector is, in effect, saying, “I don’t know what your dream means to you, but if I had this dream this is what I think it would mean to me based on my life experiences, beliefs and fears.”
When you do a reflection on someone else’s dream, it is a good practice to follow this same format, too. By doing so, it reminds you that you are projecting your beliefs and fears based on your own experience. In addition, it gives the dreamer the opportunity to say, “Yes, that’s what it means to you, but it may or may not mean that to me.”
The best way to offer a reflection on someone’s dream is to really look at it as if it were your dream. Go through the same steps you would take if it were your dream. If you haven’t already, read through my prior blogs for tips and techniques to use to work with and understand your dreams.
Start with a dream that really draws your attention. As you read a dream over look for a symbol or image that resonates with you or watch and listen for the metaphor or pun that shouts out at you. Keep in mind that there is no need to comment on every aspect of the dream. Just one or two brief comments can be a big help to the dreamer – and remember to start any reflection with, “If this were my dream, …”At first there may only be one dream in every ten or twenty that you read which you feel you can comment on, but the more dreams you read and reflect on, the easier they will become to do.
Writing a reflection on someone’s dream can be a big help to the dreamer, so now you may be wondering how writing a reflection on someone else’s dream can also benefit you.
As you now know, you are projecting your beliefs and fears based on your life experiences when reflecting on another’s dream, which now gives you the opportunity to reflect upon why you are saying what you are saying. In working with the symbols and metaphors in their dream, you are, in effect, doing some self-reflection which gives you the opportunity to learn more about yourself. Ask yourself:
- Why did I choose this dream to reflect on?
- What experience in my past or present is this dream resonating with?
- Why am I saying “this” about “that” symbol?
- Why did that metaphor come to my mind?
Keep in mind that this aspect of reflecting is for you and you alone and there is no need to share it with others.
Reflecting on others’ dreams also gives you the opportunity to practice your dreamworking skills. As you improve your skills working with others’ dreams, you will improve your skills in working with and understanding your own dreams better.
A few tips to keep in mind as you write your reflections:
- Always start with, “If this were my dream …”
- Always treat the dream and the dreamer with respect.
- Always write from the first person point of view (I, me, my). It’s very easy to slip into using “you” and “your” in the middle of writing. Reread it before hitting “send”.
- Some dreams and reflections will be very personal in nature, you might consider checking the “keep my reflection private” so that only the dreamer and you can read it.Consider if it really were your dream, would you want others to read what you are saying about it?
I hope these tips provide you with a little more confidence – and incentive – to offer reflections on dreams. Next week will be a wrap up of this series. You can also find more tips and techniques for working with your dreams in my book, Notes from a Dreamer … on Dreaming: A Personal Journey in Dream Interpretation.