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Ex boyfriend

I had a dream a couple nights ago (before I discovered this app) that my ex boyfriend called me on the phone and when I answered he didn't even say hello all he said was "What am I going to have to do to be friends with you again?" We exchanged words after that but I don't remember what was said. This dream struck me as very odd though because we have never been friends and we haven't talked in person or on the phone in over a year. I had a very hard time getting over this man (2 years later and I'm still working on it) and tried to get him back in my life as a boyfriend or friend but he has always rejected and ignored me.

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If this were my dream my ex calling me on the phone might suggest a message from my subconscious trying to connect with me. I'm not quite connecting to what needs to be known other than the conflict within myself about whether or not I should be friends with this guy again. I still may be trying to work through the unresolved feelings regarding this relationship even if it has been a year already. Something in my waking life may have triggered these past feelings. I might also wonder if there is someone new in my life (or that I am considering) and the subconscious is reminding me or wanting me to 'get the message') not to repeat the same patterns of the past.

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Strange was the most frequent word association last night.
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How to Give a Reflection on a Dream That Benefits You and the Dreamer

Posted by Bobbie Ann on April 21, 2014


In my previous blogs, I provided tips and techniques on Keeping a Dream Journal and Working with Dream Symbols, Characters, Settings, Actions and Day Residue that appear in your dreams and How to Create an Action Plan once you interpret a dream. 


Then I shared two of my own dreams and interpretations so you can see how to put it all together. In the last two blogs, I showed you some of the risks and benefits of asking others to interpret your dream for you.


This week, I’d like to show you how you can be of help to other eDreamers by giving them a reflection on their dream -- and benefit yourself in the process.


To start with, I would suggest that you read a lot of the reflections that have been written by the Dreams Cloud Reflectors. You will see some differences in these reflections, depending on the dream and the one who is doing the reflection. Sometimes they go into great detail about many of the symbols in the dream. Sometimes they may only make note of one or two symbols. At other times they may offer suggested questions the dreamer should ask themselves; or they may just give an overall feeling or sense of what the dream might be conveying. 


There are no set rules as to how many symbols should be commented on, how many words should be used or whether questions should or shouldn’t be offered.  The only requirement is that all reflections done by Dreams Cloud Reflectors start with the phrase, “If this were my dream …


This is because everyone (including me and you) projects their own beliefs and fears based on their life experiences all the time, including when they are interpreting your dream. By starting the reflection with “If this were my dream” the Reflector is, in effect, saying, “I don’t know what your dream means to you, but if I had this dream this is what I think it would mean to me based on my life experiences, beliefs and fears.”


When you do a reflection on someone else’s dream, it is a good practice to follow this same format, too.  By doing so, it reminds you that you are projecting your beliefs and fears based on your own experience. In addition, it gives the dreamer the opportunity to say, “Yes, that’s what it means to you, but it may or may not mean that to me.”



The best way to offer a reflection on someone’s dream is to really look at it as if it were your dream. Go through the same steps you would take if it were your dream. If you haven’t already, read through my prior blogs for tips and techniques to use to work with and understand your dreams.


Start with a dream that really draws your attention. As you read a dream over look for a symbol or image that resonates with you or watch and listen for the metaphor or pun that shouts out at you. Keep in mind that there is no need to comment on every aspect of the dream. Just one or two brief comments can be a big help to the dreamer – and remember to start any reflection with, “If this were my dream, …”At first there may only be one dream in every ten or twenty that you read which you feel you can comment on, but the more dreams you read and reflect on, the easier they will become to do.


Writing a reflection on someone’s dream can be a big help to the dreamer, so now you may be wondering how writing a reflection on someone else’s dream can also benefit you.


As you now know, you are projecting your beliefs and fears based on your life experiences when reflecting on another’s dream, which now gives you the opportunity to reflect upon why you are saying what you are saying. In working with the symbols and metaphors in their dream, you are, in effect, doing some self-reflection which gives you the opportunity to learn more about yourself. Ask yourself:

  • Why did I choose this dream to reflect on?
  • What experience in my past or present is this dream resonating with?
  • Why am I saying “this” about “that” symbol?
  • Why did that metaphor come to my mind?


Keep in mind that this aspect of reflecting is for you and you alone and there is no need to share it with others.


Reflecting on others’ dreams also gives you the opportunity to practice your dreamworking skills. As you improve your skills working with others’ dreams, you will improve your skills in working with and understanding your own dreams better.


A few tips to keep in mind as you write your reflections:

  • Always start with, “If this were my dream …”
  • Always treat the dream and the dreamer with respect.
  • Always write from the first person point of view (I, me, my). It’s very easy to slip into using “you” and “your” in the middle of writing.  Reread it before hitting “send”.
  • Some dreams and reflections will be very personal in nature, you might consider checking the “keep my reflection private” so that only the dreamer and you can read it.Consider if it really were your dream, would you want others to read what you are saying about it?


I hope these tips provide you with a little more confidence – and incentive – to offer reflections on dreams. Next week will be a wrap up of this series. You can also find more tips and techniques for working with your dreams in my book, Notes from a Dreamer … on Dreaming: A Personal Journey in Dream Interpretation.

How Do Dreams Inspire Creativity? Freeing the Creative Genie in a Bottle

Posted by Travis on April 17, 2014


Dreams inspire creativity by being dreams.  By their very nature, the experiences we have when we’re dreaming show us unexpected, innovative ways of representing reality.


Simply reflecting on and paying attention to our dreams is a creatively inspiring act. Witnessing dream energies opens us to the imaginative domain of a consciousness that says, by example, that we can do things like fly and breathe underwater in the dreaming.


Because dreams appear to us the way they do, revealing previously not thought of or seemingly impossible scenarios and combinations, they provide a rich source for influencing our creative lives while we’re awake.


By apprenticing ourselves to the spirit of our dreams, we connect with perceptions and feelings that can easily spark off ideas for how to cast similarly surprising, vibrant situations, images, writings or forms of music in the waking world.


One way to invite the energy of the dreams to inform our creative endeavors is to look into the dreams to see if they are addressing our waking life creative projects and desires naturally. Sometimes the dreams will spontaneously offer up experiences that readily weave into the efforts we’re making while awake. That’s happened for me when I was recording my meditation and dream incubation album, “Yoro Yoro”. The night before going into the studio to record tracks for the album, I had a dream that allowed me to inhabit a spirit of the feeling that we wanted to express with the music. The more one is engaged in creativity in waking life, the more the dreams will stir in their own unexpected products, experiences and images related to that endeavor.


Perhaps you are looking to the dreams to motivate and unlock creative juices that aren’t currently running freely. In this case, it’s helpful to incubate dreams that can assist in the movement of creative energy within. To incubate a dream is simply to ask for a guiding and helpful experience in the dream state, before going to sleep at night that can help point out ways to liberate the creative energy flow. In this case, the dream might show an inner obstacle that is in the way of making forward progress.


For example, if I’m experiencing “writer’s block”, the dreams will  (at the very least) show my various inner attitudes or waking impediments to allowing my muse to come forward. Maybe the dream will show that I have an old judgment about the worthlessness of my abilities or the value of writing itself. The dreams may also reveal how I might not be fashioning the best environment for my writing in waking life. Is the space I’m writing in supportive for my process? Are there distractions that myself, or others are placing across the roadway of my development? These themes could apply to any creator finding him, or herself stuck on the path to expressivity.

On a related wavelength, the dreams tend to offer up direct and/or metaphorically clothed solutions, examples and ideas for ways to address a specific creative enterprise. Many artists and creators go to dreams, and look for appealing expressions within them, to draw out potential motivations and material for waking life creative outlets.


The more we give time and energy to our creative quests while awake, the more likely the dreams are to comment on them and to provide clear answers or solutions. This is especially true with the effort to incubate, hatch or grow dreams that speak to our waking life questions. It helps to form clear and direct, simple queries to present to our dreams. Just before going to sleep at night and as often as possible throughout the day, it also helps to establish these inquiries and to repeat them in one’s awareness.


Examples you might like to play with in this undertaking include the following (feel free to craft your own questions along these lines – the more you put the questions in your own words, the more likely the dreams will be to respond in clearly understandable forms. I recommend keeping them simple and short):

  • What’s blocking my ability to create?

  • How can I be more creative?

  • What’s the solution to my creative project?

  • What does the spirit of my own creativity look like?

  • How do my dreams inspire creativity?